You don’t have to do everything all at once. Nor should you. But you do have to do something. Like now. And you have to continue doing that ‘something’ over and over and over again until that something becomes ingrained. And you will know when it becomes ingrained because you will feel as though something is missing from your life if you ever (on the off chance) forget to do it.
For example, have you ever wandered or staggered into work on a Monday with a constant nagging feeling in the back of your mind that you forgot something? You just can’t place your finger quite on what it is until you realize you need it. “It” being… your phone…
Personally, I feel naked whenever I leave my phone at home. And I hate to admit that because I really do hate using the stupid thing. But, like most everyone else I have indeed become addicted to using it. Every little ping, ding, and vibration is a siren’s call to my attention. So much so, that I now make a regular practice of burying it deep into the bowels of my bag every morning so that I am less tempted to check it every 60 seconds.
Shamefully, I admit that my phone is essentially a detachable part of me. If I lose it or forget it I feel lost, naked and out of rhythm. I have become so used to using it and relying on it and having it whenever I need it that to leave it at home and not have it around would be like snapping off my pinky finger. I would miss it immediately, but wouldn’t really know it until it was gone.
The point of this side story is that if you want your life to change, you need to have behaviors and surrounding environmental factors available to you. But not just available. They need to be ingrained, un-detachable and rooted into every fiber of your living being in order for them to be effective. In this example… the phone. Although admittedly it is probably not a good change.
But it can work for you as well. So if you want to change your life in a positive way, like loosing weight, you need to become the kind of person that is fit, muscular, thin and active. The person that subconsciously makes good, healthy eating decisions. The person that feels remiss if they miss their scheduled day at the gym (just as you may currently feel remiss if you forget your phone at home). The person that feels absolutely sluggish and slow and disgusting if they deviate from their way of eating for anything longer than one or two meals. The kind of person that has a repertoire of behaviors at their disposal that allow them to be a fit, attractive and muscular person.
These behaviors though, do not just accumulate because you tried to diet for 2 weeks. The life and lifestyle that you are currently living absolutely will not change noticeably in 2 weeks (excluding some extreme level of physical or mental trauma). I am saying this not to “rain on your parade” and “put you in your place,” but to help you understand human change behavior.
You have cultivated and harbored the beliefs, actions and habits you currently possess for years. And they have gotten you to where you currently sit as you read this. Like my personal addiction to a cellular device, you will not curb your addiction to (insert guilty eating pleasure here) in a mere 21 days like the magazine would have you believe.
BUT… you absolutely can change.
It just requires a much more focused, systemized and rational way to do so. Oh, and time. It takes time. And lots of it. But, yes. It is possible. I see it happen all the time because it is the nature of my job. But the expectation and the ways that people go about it are, quite simply, INCREDIBLY irrational.